Boyfriend & Weed Issues Help?

You sound like a very empathetic person. I'm sure you will be able to let this quality shine through. But I understand the trickiness of the issue, you do not want to sound like you are judging him or moralizing as those ways would not show that you love him and that you care about his well-being. A judgmental approach is also probably not efficient. So try addressing the real issue instead. He seems to be fleeing the world because the world makes him suffer. Who or what is that exactly? Is he hurting, is it something he wants not to feel by smoking? You might want to help him identify what exactly he is running away from and then you could address the underlying issues. Stay warm and empathetic. I hope he cuts back because he might fail in just about everything if he doesn't - school, parenting, his relationship with you. He's lucky to have you and you are lucky to experience such deep love with him and for him, and I wish you both best of luck and better times ahead.